The Little Black Book of Boundaries

Boundaries are decisions about what you will and will not do, accept, and take responsibility for. They’re your personal policies, and they make you more trustworthy, more consistent, and a better leader for the people who depend on you.

This workbook walks you through six steps to draw better lines around your time, energy, and values:

1. Triggers: list your obligations, resentments, and unease.
2. Values: find the values each one is butting up against.
3. Policies: turn your 'should's into clear personal policies.
4. Scripts: decide what you’ll say before you’re on the spot.
5. Small wins: start with the easy ones and build confidence.
6. Comms: hold the line with love, not anger or frustration.

Print it, or work through it on screen. Give yourself an hour, a cup of tea, and permission to be honest.